All too often couples find themselves “Making allowances.” Forgiving inappropriately. It goes something like this:
“He or she just did or said something that upset me. I don’t know how to let them know how it made me feel. I love them dearly and I don’t want to get into an argument or a fight, so I’ll just let it go by.”
“After all, we love each other. We’ll be together for the rest of our lives. I’ll “Make allowances.” t’s just not as important than our marriage. We have children.”
“Making allowances,” tolerating unkind behavior, whether by accident or by design, is a very,very slippery slope.
All too often, the marriage and communication couples that have come to see me – have been “Making allowances” for years and their capacity to “Make more and more allowances” has run out. In a sense their marriage, their relationship bank account has gone bankrupt.
The way to avoid totally bankrupting your relationship, your marriage, is to learn to communicate with mutual honor and respect.
Learning how to communicate with honor and respect is far cheaper. A stitch in time saves nine.
For an added bonus: once your children learn good quality communication from you – inevitably you will approve of and like your future sons and daughters in law. Christmas becomes something joyous to look forward to.
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Learn to communicate together.
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