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“A female partner’s point of view.”

One of the concerns I often hear from female clients is something like the following: “I am not sure I know the man I married. Oh, we have all the normal things that go along with a marriage: our home 2 plus children, money in the bank, careers and so forth. And yet, I have

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“Is Silence Golden?”

Men (but not only men) have what we might call a more “Workplace communication style” designed to collaborate, identify and solve problems, to achieve and accomplish goals together. When one man approaches another man in the workplace it must be because he needs something from him. If there is silence in the workplace – that

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“The Genesis of Forgiveness, the Rebirth of Trust”

How do we rebuild trust when it is gone? (Part one) We know that words have no value when it comes to reestablishing our partner’s trust. We hear, “Talk is cheap” “Actions speak louder than words,” “I simply don’t believe you.” So, how may we rebuild their faith in us? Can we be forgiven? Towards

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Breakdowns in communication counseling illustrated

Part one: a female life partner’s point of view.. One of the concerns I hear from female clients is something like the following: “I am not sure I know the man I married. What I mean is on the surface all seems “fine.” We have all the normal things that go along with a marriage:

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Entering into WE-ality

Relationships thrive within a WE-ality, not a ME-ality The key to creating an Extraordinary Relationship lies in developing your capacity to go from a ME-based life to a WE-based life. Up to and until the moment you entered into a relationship with another, the language you spoke, the choices you made about how and where

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Are You Suffering From Mistletoe Avoidance Syndrome?

Are you beginning to dread the upcoming holiday season? Have you begun to think, “I just do not know how I am going to sit and smile at them for one more year,” or, “Am I going have to have to pretend to get along with her, again?” or, “Oh gee whiz, another Christmas with

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Communication Is The Key To Invitation

One of the keys to communication is invitation. When you wish to share something with your spouse, invite them to talk, first. They might be involved in something else and are unable or unwilling to interrupt what they are doing in the moment. Starting to talk without an invitation may put them in a bind.

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Is Your Relationship on Cruise Control?

Has this ever happened to you? Driving your car, you discover that not only are you well past your exit; you are a number of miles further down the road! You wonder, “Where am I? How did I get here?” Or, have you ever woken up one morning next to your partner, lover, or spouse,

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Relationships are a lot like automobiles

What would our lives be like if we took care of our relationships as well as we do our cars? Think about it. You need your car; it provides you with a sense of freedom and mobility. Your car is a valuable extension of yourself and your life. You routinely watch its speedometer, odometer, tire

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Parents with adult children: Upgrading your family model to become a family of adults.

We love our children-but they inevitably grow up. The child we held in our arms and whose diapers we once changed is now an adult, or very nearly so, and this raises a number of difficult issues for all involved. A father of a college student daughter was in great suffering. He kept asking his

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