When is it best to say, “I’m sorry?” Or is it best to say “I apologize?”
When is it best to say, “I’m sorry?” Or is it best to say “I apologize?” Degrees of relatedness are important. When one is at a funeral with a lower degree of relatedness, expressing “I am sorry for your loss” is an appropriate expression of empathy for their loss. Apology is critical to the future […]
Where does cheating and infidelity come from?
Where does cheating and infidelity come from? It is useful to consider that cheating is a symptom, not a cause. Then the question becomes “a symptom of what?” As a Marriage and Communication Coach, there are four sources of cheating and infidelity: 1. Lack of effective communication and relationship skills. 2. Lack of self and […]
Marriage and Integrity
Marriages and integrity Many of us are married to partners who have a significant, high relationship to planning and results. Your partner tends to pay attention to knowing as much as possible beforehand, such that they can produce their and your intended results by the time declared. They prefer to get things done as soon […]
Marriages without communication and relationship skills
Marriages without communication and relationship skills. What occurs to marriages when the individuals within marriages simply don’t know how to communicate effectively? They’ve never been exposed to good communication and relationship skills. Social media, television programming, books, and movies rarely provide good quality relationship guidance. Their awareness of relationship skills comes from what their parents […]
Calling all parents!
Calling all parents! Our goal is to live as a “Get to” parent who, by living a “Get to” life. raises “Get to” children who become “Get to” adults. Many of us live lives of obligation driven by an “or else” relationship with our circumstances. We have to, “or else,” we need to, “or else,” […]
How to keep your marriage and family “Bubble” thriving, vital, and alive
How to keep your marriage and family “Bubble” thriving, vital, and alive Your marriage, you, your partner , and your children all exist within a unique marriage and family, “Bubble.” There are behaviors that DO belong to your marriage’s Bbubble: i.e., listening, sharing, expressing emotions, intimacy, safety, support, kindness, love, mutual honor, and respect. There […]
The power of “Yes, and.”
The power of “Yes, and.” Beginning our sentences with“Yes and” will make the differencein any communication. “Yes” indicates “I heard you.” We instantly shift from reacting to responding. “Yes, and” provides us a moment to pause, engage our intelligence, reflect, and then choose our next words, determining the future of our relationship. “Yes, and…”At home: […]
Can Marriages Be Restored And Divorce Prevented?
Can marriages be restored and divorce prevented? Yes. I routinely support couples who initially choose divorce out of a lack of relationship and communication skills. They chose divorce out of an imagined lack of options. Love is not enough. Lack of a mutual awareness of Love Languages, personality types, a legacy of distorting influences from […]
What a difference an “E” makes!
What a difference an “E” makes! It seems to me that many of us tend to live lives of obligation, our lives given by“I have to. I need to. I should, I’ve got to. I must.”Everything we do, from the moment we get up in the morning until we go to sleep is because“We have […]
How Do We Evict Persistent Hurtful Memories?
How do we evict persistent hurtful memories? Many of us are plagued by memories of events in our past, from our childhood, and previous relationships. They tend to come up repeatedly. How do we retire and get free from our past?I invite us to consider that our memories are fabricated from a narrative (a story), […]