You will first need to find the way to be authentic about your inauthenticity, and apologize in such a manner that offers your partner a genuine opportunity to forgive, to restore her trust in you, and stay in your relationship.
When you apologize, offer no:
Secondly, get relationship and communication coaching.
Learn how to apologize, how to listen authentically.
Understand that neither of you learned more than Reading, 'Riting, and 'Rithmetic in school.
Neither of you had any classes on Relationships and Communication.
There was no Fourth R.
Then get a coach.
Learn the skills, insights, and best practices for a relationship that grows to last a lifetime.
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Neither, "But, I love you!" or an
"I'm sorry" are apologies.
Neither earns you forgiveness,
Neither earns you trust.
Only apology apologizes and
May make the difference as to whether you grow your marriage or face divorce.
Learn the difference.