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Listen for an "or else." I have to - or else. I need to - or else. We should- or else. You must - or else. We experience, perceive some form of threat to our existence.We tend to react, respond with an "or else." "I have...

Least understood, and what most men are completely unaware of - is that there's no place on earth where any woman will feel safe. Nor is there any evidence that she ought to feel safe. Half of humankind has no reason to feel safe. She parks her...

Listen for an "or else." I have to - or else. I need to - or else. We should- or else. You must - or else. We experience, perceive some form of threat to our existence.W8e tend to react, respond with an "or else." "I have...

Has a lot to do with the number and nature of the connections in your life. If you are feeling unhappy, sad, angry, irritated, hurt. Or, feeling discouraged, depressed, or frustrated.  These are only symptoms. I invite you to take a moment...

Is your marriage catch-able? For a professional ballplayer, every ball is catchable. Ballplayers move, dance with the ball, correlating their movements with the ball. It moves, they move. For them, every ball is catchable.   Is your life...

Successful communication has three steps:    Invitation to connect    Connection    Communication In the absence of connection, all I can do is hear you. Nothing you say to me goes further than my...

“Fuzzy speaking and hearing,” leaves us feeling disconnected and unhappy.   Successful communication requires that we understand how what we say is heard by the one listening to us. Aware of how they will  hear us allows us to...

Is your marriage growing frustrated and angry?   It's your response to lack of results when you've failed to achieve, maintain, and grow the love and connection you experienced at the beginning of your relationship.   Marital...

We can almost always replace a "Got to" with a "Get to" and enjoy an enhanced experience of life. You get to check it out for yourself.   Would you rather live by "Have to, Need to, Got to, Should, or...

I invite you to achieve a powerful mutual appreciation and connection with one another, by reading together, out loud to one another, taking turns.   The book is called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.   Then take the...

The secret to well-being has a lot to do with the number and nature of the connections in your life.   If you are feeling unhappy, sad, angry, irritated, hurt. Or, feeling discouraged, depressed, or frustrated, These are only...

Our sole access to any influence we may wish to have upon another lies in our capacity to authentically connect.   In absence of connection, All I can do is hear you (Everything is blah, blah, blah). Nothing conveys, nor crosses our...

It is worthwhile to read the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman aloud together, taking turns and enjoying rich sidebar conversations together. We can learn that that one of us requires, “Words of Affirmation” and appreciation as their...

Part 1: the dilemma. We have what we might classify as a "Truth app" running well below the threshold of our conscious awareness. Our "Truth app" springs into action when it "hears" us speaking points of view with one...

We unintentionally do harm to ourselves whenever we begin speaking, “I have to... I need to… I should… or I must… I ought to…” and so forth. Listening to ourselves carefully, we may will also hear what we are...

Are we, in our marriages and relationships, living from a ME-ality or from a WE-ality? Were we to take a step back and look at ourselves we might distinguish that there is a continuum between ME-ality on one extreme, and WE-ality on the other. One...

We have what we might classify as a "Truth app" runningwell below the threshold of our conscious awareness Our "Truth app" springs into action when it "hears" us speaking points of view with one another. That is our...

We often confuse, "I'm Sorry" with, "I apologize." At best, "I'm Sorry" communicates regret or sympathy, It's not an apology. • Saying, "I'm sorry it did not turn out the way you wanted"...

Effective communication starts with stop. Stop reacting. Reacting is our friend when we're driving our car. We want to stop before we run in to something. No thinking needed. Just slow down. However, reacting does not work for us when we want to...